Support or Interfering?

It’s quite interesting where people see support or interfering.  I remember my Nana not wanting anyone to interfere in her life, but after surgery she needed support so she moved in with us and I would help her out or support her.  So she still had her own place and own things.  She didn’t have to worry about sorting things out post surgery.

And there are many ways you CAN support people.  During Covid, many people felt that being in the house and not seeing anybody was quite a bind and so there were others who would ring them once a week (I am still in contact with the lady who started ringing me) and I am hopeful some found it as supportive as I did and still do.

Not only that, but because we are both disabled, we needed to have Maisie walked because we did not want to venture outside.  And I found out - I think it was about halfway through the first covid that this service could be provided.  We had lovely people come and walk her.  So that took the pressure off us for a while.

There are also different kinds of help you can get, of course.  Domestic work, personal care, self-help books, therapists, counsellors, support workers, medical doctors, nurses and all the staff that are contained in a hospital.  So there can be support in many areas of life.

When somebody tries telling you exactly what to do and when, or push into your personal space, I think that’s when it steps from support to interfering.

TREASURE

Support at different times in my life is needed, but that’s ok and accepting what is out there to give you that support is a good thing.