Thoughts of the week 17

In marriage, we are asked to be a helpmate for the husband as a bride and vice versa.  And that we will be faithful to each other.  Now I know some people don’t like the thought of marriage and believe they can still keep fidelity between each other.

As you have probably learned, marriage does not guarantee fidelity.  What makes the difference is believing in the person, being faithful to and supporting them and building a life TOGETHER, not, alone.  It’s not that you should lose your own identity - absolutely NOT!  But that you work together to love, honour and support each other in everything.

With every relationship you are working with individuals and EVERY person in this world is unique, as I have often said.  So the “division of labour” in the house, or the support levels needed in the house, will be individual, too.  There isn’t really a separation of work as such, but tradition has ideas that may or may not be recognised.

I hadn’t realised just how much support I needed until the end of last week when I had a 3 hour assessment.  But by the time I had finished, I was EXHAUSTED.  But, because I had finally faced my need of help and where it would best be needed, I was able to express it.

As a couple in a relationship, you need to think of each other and realise decisions - important ones that impact family life are made as a couple.  Now you won’t always agree with each other, and that’s ok.

TREASURE

The most important thing in a couple relationship is to love, honour, respect, give and make decisions that impact family life, together, as a couple, not alone.