I’m fine

“I’m fine” you tell the person asking but…honestly?  If you DID tell the truth - well….

I’m sure you have faced the situation yourself, at least once = from both sides of the question.  There were years when I never told the truth in this situation. I wasn’t fine, but I didn’t trust the question was genuine, so this was the one place and time in my life that I lied.

There are different reasons people don’t tell the truth about how they are feeling - even those who look like their life is perfect, the image projected appears unshakable and they give what seems a genuine smile as they say it.

When I lived in England there was one person I knew who meant it.  She would take one look at me and say “I don’t need to ask how you’re doing.  Your eyes tell me the truth anyway, and I can see you’re not.”

For decades I tried to put everyone else and everything they needed before my own needs.  But even with the best will in the world to do so, there were times I simply HAD to say no because my body wasn’t going to co-operate.  And I didn’t see that myself or my own needs were important, too.

Because when you have a bad self image and low self esteem the last thing you want to do is focus on yourself.  And anything that causes you to do so, you put aside, brush it away, lock it up, try to contain it.  Because it’s not something you can face.

At the end of the day, living like that isn’t really living.  It keeps you locked in to the place and mindset you are in.  But telling the truth isn’t a bad thing.  If they’re not interested, are they worth it?

TREASURE

Telling someone how I feel is never wrong.  How they react is just their reaction, not a refection of myself as a person.