The Power of No

What?  You don’t know what I am talking about?  Well, you know I’ve been talking about when you have low self esteem?  Unfortunately when you don’t value yourself as a person, it ends up that way WANT to say no to things, but you just simply can’t.

My goodness, I can think back to so many times I really wanted to use the word no, but I found it absolutely impossible.  In fact, the only way I discovered that I “could” say no was to simply disappear.  Which, of course, increased the loneliness and longing for companionship even more.

No is one of the shortest words in the English language, but causes so many issues for those with a low self image.  There was no value of myself, my time, my health or happiness.  Other people deserved it, but I felt that I did not.  And comfort?  What on earth was that?  

One of the reasons I ended up coming to Scotland was because of my inability to say no.  I knew there was simply no way I could, and the only way I could manage was to leave everything I knew and move somewhere else.  So that was what I did.

When I believed I had no value, even if there WERE times I could say that two letter word, I would find myself giving a long explanation of WHY it was impossible for me to do what was requested of me.  It doesn’t mean no isn’t valid - it is, but I needed to discover that I needed to respect myself enough to allow that word to have its own meaning.

TREASURE

The word no is such an important word that can be used to benefit myself, but I need to understand and believe that a simple one word answer is all that is needed and respect myself enough to leave it there.