Nature vs Nurture

I know one of my friends asked me to write something about this a few years ago but I just didn’t feel it was the right time to do so.  But it’s a subject I have been considering a lot recently.  

It can be so strange that you can have siblings brought up in a household in apparently the same way, going to same school, having the same attention and love from family and friends and are close in age and yet they turn out completely differently.  In fact, it’s not JUST siblings but even identical twins or triplets can be genetically the same but unique individuals.

As you know, parents, carers, grandparents, foster parents and adopted parents are there to love and nurture the children they look after.  And there are many (I would include myself in this) who do it instinctively without even thinking about it.  

However, I am well aware that this is not the case with everybody.  Sometimes it is the fact that the natures clash and so the adult finds it more complex to relate to the children than would normally be the case.  Or the “bonding” time was either not there, or difficult to establish.  In fact, there can be many reasons why the connection is fraught with difficulty.

But, having said that, if you are willing to work to try and bring a connection with the child instead of just giving up, you CAN make a difference.  Just because things were difficult doesn’t mean they have to stay that way.  

Nature AND nurture work together and if I am struggling I know there is a key to the nature that can be discovered.  Once the key is found, yes, it takes time, hard work and dedication but a difference can be made to that child.  And if I can be the one to connect to the nature and be able to nurture that person, I know I can make a massive difference.

Actually I have been thinking even more about this since I wrote it and am thankful I didn’t yet send it to Jamie.  I actually don’t think it’s EITHER nature OR nurture but BOTH combined.  

TREASURE

Nature and nurture can work together.  I just need to be willing to look for that key and be willing to nurture the individual.