16 years already?

Can you believe this?  16 years ago today, Kevin and I said “I do” to each other.  It was the best day of my life up until that point.  Kevin has been my rock and supporter through everything and I am so grateful we found each other after I moved to Scotland and we both knew almost straight away we were soulmates and meant for each other.

Today Sylvie (one of the carers) asked me if I could sum up the years we have  been together in one word.  I sat and thought about it but one word just doesn’t seem enough to describe it all.  There have been good and bad times, as you’d expect with so many years together.

Actually, I was just thinking if you were to describe what we have been to each other, I would have to say loving, faithful, supportive, caring, sharing, working together to get things done.  And yes, that’s much more than one word, but I really don’t think it’s possible to do so.

I know that sometimes people look at our married life and assume that being a disabled couple can’t be easy.  And in some ways, I guess they are probably right.  They can’t imagine what our life is like because it’s something they have never experienced.

But Kevin and I aren’t newly disabled.  We were both born with genetic conditions so we generally know what we can do and how our bodies will react.  So if we need to get a job done, if we work together, we can mostly get it done.  Okay that doesn’t always work, and we have to get extra help in, but we have a great life.

The years we have been married have been truly remarkable and I am so grateful for the time we have been together.  Kevin has always understood me and many times he actually knows me better than I know myself, much to my surprise.